FTS

Juggler a écrit : As I was sitting across from a woman at dinner I was inspired to pull a Chapstick lip-balm out of my pocket. I popped the cap off in an obvious manner and made a show of glossing my lips with the stuff. Then I said to her, 'Not that I'm presuming anything, but in case there's any smooching later.' I'm not sure where that stroke of genius came from. I guess desperation is the mother of invention. It got a laugh and then I went right back into talking about whatever, 'So you are going to be a marine biologist? My cousin fell into the Otter tank at Seaworld.'
We ended up making out in the restaurant parking lot before we had even found my car.
I decided to do the same with all my dates.
It became a win-win. I could tell from a woman's tone if she was up for a physical connection. If she became distant after the Chapstick I would cut the date short and get home in time to watch Seinfeld. But if she stayed in there with me I knew it was ON.
My success with women increased dramatically. My dates would even sometimes initiate the kissing. With my new found confidence I started to slow down and enjoy being around women.
You don't need a Chapstick to do this. That was just the prop I needed to discover this principle. Setting sexual expectations is the important part. Don't even wait until a date. You should do this when you meet a woman. Before you take her number. When your sexual expectation is clear it makes getting a phone number an accounting detail. Then you can spend the phone call flirting. Women love this. They drool over a man who can make it clear and not waste their time on murkiness."